I seek the sun
When its still dark
I seek the answers
To questions I didn’t ask
I seek the rain
When it’s scorching hot
I seek the sunshine
When clouds and storms are tied in a knot
I seek solitude
When I am surrounded
I seek company
When I feel grounded
I seek the leisure
When I need to be on toes
I seek faith’s treasure
When I sense my foes
I seek engagement
When boredom gets to me
I seek a gasp of breath
When hectic monotony overpowers me
I seek love when I feel alone
I seek a bosom to cry
When life pelts me with stone
I seek for perfection
Though it’s still unknown
Contentment is not part of my verve
But never do I ask more than what I deserve
My search will go on
It’s on a journey of its own
Reaching a destination and setting off again
Is nothing but an addiction to which I am so prone!
Adieu, I say
To yesterday...
To the years of joy gone by
And to the moments of dismay...
Farewell, I bid
To an extraordinary period...
Where I gathered many laurels
And emerged much experienced...
Ahoy! Calls up my today...
Chores awaiting, and a voyage to faraway
I buckle up my belt, all geared and ready....
Hoping success; prepared being castaway...
Living this moment, i cherish...
Because the next, the previous will perish
This cycle goes on, and I live on
Laugh away; smile a li’l more, no time to be boorish...
Looking at some distance, awaits my tomorrow...
I smile, anticipate what is to follow...
Be it sun or shade, will face it with gusto...
Will fill life with goodness, won't leave it hollow...
Future is a book, yet to be opened...
Read it well, right to the end.
Why guess the climax and spoil it all...
Turn each page, live every word and then comprehend...
Adieu, ahoy, wait goes on...
Wish we get richer as we carry on...
Learn the essence of walking this earth...
Spread love, peace... is all we need, a dawning across the horizon......
"What happens, happens for the best" said all the wise men/women. Optimism at its best. So when life doesn't meet your expectations, you change the scale and call it delight? Who are we faking to? You don’t get a 100%, you are not into "MII". That’s it. And your life will be very different from those who did get.
Now, if we ponder on the reasons of not meeting our own expectations, we can have a long list… may be we were not realistic, may be our caliber was not up to it, may be we didn’t try hard enough. Same goes for other aspects of our lives when we feel let down, disappointed… The gap between our expectations and what the ground reality is makes for the end-of-the-world feeling. The larger the gap, the more intense the feeling of hurt. It is obvious then we should either accept the reality as it is or try harder to meet the expectations. But many a times, we don’t do either… I was wondering why?
When we build our hopes on illusions, wishful thinking and start living a lucid dream when the difference between the dream and reality becomes a blur. We start expecting results which are obviously unachievable by the very nature of the characters in that dream, after all they are a figment of our imagination, the way we see them. And the clashes begin. You wake up then… but soon enough you go back to sleep coz that world is so much better… and then you are jolted back again…
Personalities, studied in depth by stalwarts like Freud, are shaped by experience with the world, moral values passed on and the inherent needs of the person. And for every person, these three parameters have unique and permanent values because each one of us have different experiences with the world, our morals may be different too and our inherent needs of hunger, thirst, rest, etc are unique to us too. And once shaped, personalities hardly change. So, it is important to realize and accept the way people are and not the way we want them to be, to realize the way you are and not what you are expected to be. Then you take it or leave it… the world doesn’t end.
Yes, all of us encounter such clashes of The Expectations Vs The Real, reason being, at first sight you don’t know how big the gap is… and by the time you see it clearly, you are drained out trying to bridge the gap. Two people are like fingerprints… unique. So obviously there will be differences that give them the meaning of their existence but the question is to decide on the +-% of deviation you are willing to accommodate. And if two people are like the North pole and the South pole, they'll always be facing the opposite direction. The other person here can be a real person or the goals we wish to achieve.
So, to have a peaceful, fulfilling life, one needs to be very vigilant in surrounding oneself with people and goals which fall into that +-% flexibility… in all spheres, be it work or personal. Recruitment process also stresses on this particular alignment of personality and expectations and my HR friends would more than agree with the fruitfulness of it. I don't believe in pseudo optimism or consolations, but only if we could look at Life with such objectivity, manage our expectations and surroundings, there won't be a word in our dictionaries: Disappointment.
